Thursday, January 3, 2008

Lessons from Dr. Seuss

When I was a little girl my favorite bedtime story was The Sneetches. My dad used to read it to me using funny voices. It wasn't until many years later, I realized this book was really about racism. I think because the message contained in this book was so important to my dad, he took great care to read it in an entertaining way, so I would understand. You see, as a little girl I lived in a suburb of Detroit during the Civil Rights movement, when there was much racial tension between black and white people. I lived in a white neighborhood. Many of our neighbors were racists. My dad didn't approve of racism, and was strongly in favor of Civil Rights. He used to argue with neighbors over this. He did things other white people found intolerable-- such as making friends with black people and inviting black coworkers to his cocktail parties. To a certain extent, I did understand the message of this book as a small child-- that it was wrong to be unkind to someone because of how they looked. I could relate to the feeling of being left out. I also understood my dad was different from most our neighbors in that he wouldn't allow racial slurs or jokes in our home.

Today, I was reading in one of my favorite bloggers sites. She's oral-deaf, and made a comment about what it's like.


"For a deaf chick that has a habit of running her mouth has grown up in what some people have called the “hearing world,” I never found a hearing person who could relate to me and my quirky ways of getting through the day. I have been called weird countless of times and I acknowledge that since I eat pizza with a fork, put potato chips on my hoagies, and I swallow gum. Ironically, I have almost NO experience with the “deaf world” and what little experience I did have I was shunned. When deaf people can talk, there seems to be a common theme that people like me are deaf to the “hearing world,” and hearing to the “deaf world.” Where do we fit in? We don’t. Personally, I feel that there is no such a thing as a “hearing world” and a “deaf world” because it implies that the world is divided by a common denominator, which is a contradiction unto itself. Last time I checked, we all walk on the same terra firma, witness the same solar rotation, and feel the same splash of rain on our face. I don’t define the world I live in as a white or black world, or a Christian or Jewish world, or a Wal-Mart or Target world, so why would I lend to reason that a hearing and deaf world exist? I feel the world is my oyster and I intend to crack it open." http://contradica.blogspot.com/2007/12/greatest-moment-of-year.html


Lately I have been thinking the message of Dr. Suess could be applied to Deaf and deaf. From my perspective and many of us on the 'd' side of the fence, the d/Deaf distinction is about exclusion and disharmony within a community. We feel like a Sneetch without stars on our bellies wherever we go.


Here is the story of the Sneetches once again.


Bellies With Stars


THE SNEETCHES by Dr. Suess




Now the Star-bellied Sneetches had bellies with stars. The Plain-bellied Sneetches had none upon thars. The stars weren't so big; they were really quite small. You would think such a thing wouldn't matter at all. But because they had stars, all the Star-bellied Sneetches would brag, "We're the best kind of Sneetch on the beaches."



With their snoots in the air, they would sniff and they'd snort, " We'll have nothing to do with the plain-bellied sort." And whenever they met some, when they were out walking, they'd hike right on past them without even talking.




When the Star-bellied children went out to play ball, could the Plain-bellies join in their game? Not at all! You could only play ball if your bellies had stars, and the Plain-bellied children had none upon thars.




When the Star-bellied Sneetches had frankfurter roasts, or picnics or parties or marshmallow toasts, they never invited the Plain-bellied Sneetches. Left them out cold in the dark of the beaches. Kept them away; never let them come near, and that's how they treated them year after year.




Then one day, it seems, while the Plain-bellied Sneetches were moping, just moping alone on the beaches, sitting there, wishing their bellies had stars, up zipped a stranger in the strangest of cars.




"My friends, " he announced in a voice clear and keen, "My name is Sylvester McMonkey McBean. I've heard of your troubles; I've heard you're unhappy. But I can fix that; I'm the fix-it-up chappie. I've come here to help you; I have what you need. My prices are low, and I work with great speed, and my work is one hundred per cent guaranteed."






Then quickly, Sylvester McMonkey McBean put together a very peculiar machine. Then he said, "You want stars like a Star-bellied Sneetch? My friends, you can have them . . . . for three dollars each. Just hand me your money and climb on aboard."





They clambered inside and the big machine roared. It bonked. It clonked. It jerked. It berked. It bopped them around, but the thing really worked. When the Plain-bellied Sneetches popped out, they had stars! They actually did, they had stars upon thars!




Then they yelled at the ones who had stars from the start, "We're exactly like you; you can't tell us apart. We're all just the same now, you snooty old smarties. Now we can come to your frankfurter parties!"



"Good grief!" groaned the one who had stars from the first. "We're still the best Sneetches, and they are the worst. But how in the world will we know," they all frowned, "if which kind is what or the other way 'round?"




Then up stepped McBean with a very sly wink, and he said, "Things are not quite as bad as you think. You don't know who's who, that is perfectly true. But come with me, friends, do you know what I'll do? I'll make you again the best Sneetches on beaches, and all it will cost you is ten dollars eaches.




Belly stars are no longer in style, " said McBean. "What you need is a trip through my stars-off machine. This wondrous contraption will take off your stars, so you won't look like Sneetches who have them on thars."




That handy machine, working very precisely, removed all the stars from their bellies quite nicely. Then, with snoots in the air, they paraded about. They opened their beaks and proceeded to shout, "We now know who's who, and there isn't a doubt, the best kind of Sneetches are Sneetches without."



Then, of course those with stars all got frightfully mad. To be wearing a star now was frightfully bad. Then, of course old Sylvester McMonkey McBean invited them into his stars-off machine. Then, of course from then on, you can probably guess, things really got into a horrible mess.
All the rest of the day on those wild screaming beaches, the Fix-it-up-Chappie was fixing up Sneetches. Off again, on again, in again, out again, through the machine and back round about again, still paying money, still running through, changing their stars every minute or two, until neither the Plain- nor the Star-bellies knew whether this one was that one or that one was this one or which one was what one or what one was who!



Then, when every last cent of their money was spent, the Fix-It-Up-Chappie packed up and he went. And he laughed as he drove in his car up the beach, "They never will learn; no, you can't teach a Sneetch!"



But McBean was quite wrong, I'm quite happy to say, the Sneetches got quite a bit smarter that day. That day, they decided that Sneetches are Sneetches, and no kind of Sneetch is the BEST on the beaches. That day, all the Sneetches forgot about stars, and whether they had one or not upon thars.



I have no use for labels. Thanks DAD!










10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I loved this story growing up. When I was at CSUN, another friend of mine used this story as an anology for the deaf finding other deaf like themselves. Thanks for sharing this. You are blessed to have a wonderful, loving dad.

Julie Rems-Smario

Anonymous said...

I also abhor any kind of discrimination, racial or otherwise. The one reason I won't mix with the deaf community is because they make such a distinction of big d and little d, which bugs me so much that I just gave up on them.

I have some wonderful friends both deaf and hearing, to me it's not whether your big d or little d, but whether you can communicate with each other, and have things in common. For those that don't even want to try, because they don't see me as deaf enough, then they are the ones that are missing out on life, friendhips, fun, laughter and support.

Cheers
Robyn

Anonymous said...

thanks for sharing this

i have thought about this story often with the current controversies within the Deaf-world

the story can be read many ways depending on your center

as u noted "the 'd' side of the fence, the d/Deaf distinction is about exclusion and disharmony within a community"

folks on the 'D' side of the fence might say that the rejection of ASL and a Deaf culture is exclusionary and invites disharmony within the community

i think the main point of this marvelous story is how each EXTREME side fails to see the commonalities they have and also tries to alter who they are (stars on or off depending on the perceived preference)

the morale perhaps is ACCEPTANCE for who u are

not to deny that some have stars upon thars but to say star or none - neither is better than the other

then we can forget about our differences and see our commonalities - it is not, to me, a story to deny that some have stars and some have none or try to coerce either group to be small d only or be big D only - the point of the story is that all sneetches are deaf - while some my identify as 'd' and others may identify as 'D' - they are still all physically deaf

the most telling part of the story to me is:
"Then, when every last cent of their money was spent, the Fix-It-Up-Chappie packed up and he went. And he laughed as he drove in his car up the beach, "They never will learn; no, you can't teach a Sneetch!"

presently it seems the Fix-it-up-chappie is winning

hopefully we will prove him wrong soon

not by denial but by joining hands despite our different centers

peace

patti durr

Anonymous said...

I always bought a book for my hearing daughters to read the book. My older daughter love Dr Suess. Somewhat I never thought it have a some racial in the book .. I don't really intent to pay attention.
but, that book is best taught children to read it .. Sound funny grammar. Something that the book did taught me,too.

Enjoying to share our words with you. I agree that we dont allowing slur in my house,too.. I feel the way your dad are excellent share to sitting with you.

Deaf Pixie

Karen Mayes said...

Oh yes, I remember this story very well... we even have the animated videotape of it :o) It is funny, because this morning I put in money for my daughter's field trip to a college theatrical play called "Suessical".

Very true... at the end we all are the same, no different from each other, despite cultures, langauges, etc. We all are human beings... I have the book also, so I should read it aloud to my daughter and discuss it with my son sitting in...

:o)

Deb Ann and Hannah said...

Well, I am so impressed! Guess what? I LOVE your story!
That book was always my favorite, and we have the VHS of it, too. My kids enjoy it so much! I never grew out of it. It's a good lesson and I believe we can be friends with others no matter what their background is.

Anonymous said...

I just wanted to say thank you SO VERY MUCH for helping me get to the bottom of Ethan's Ci issue. I've already had one visitor stop by and lend her experiences. I appreciate more than I can adequately express here ;-)

Best wishes to you in 2008!

Unknown said...

...Beautiful blog, I can't believe that I have never read this Dr. Seuss book, it is just amazing. Thank you so much for putting such a painful and raging debate spread over a variety of issues in kidspeak - kind of puts it all in perspective. Thanks for visiting my blog, really appreciated it! I'm looking forward to reading more of yours...Jodi

Kim said...

Thank you all for your positive encouragement and insightful comments. It helps to know that you feel the same as me. We're all in this together! :-)

Anonymous said...

That is true, I agree, Thank you for sharing your stories which is touching, I am deaf, you have yoour point, Leviticus 19:18 18 " 'Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD. and you did make me realized which I never thought of this one. Example this movie "Remember the Titans", it is very touching story and loved it also based on the true story.